The ''Sundown Scaries'' that no one warns you about

As the sun starts to go down, have you noticed a wave of dread creeping in?

You're not alone.

So many new parents describe this feeling in those first few weeks after birth. The day has been busy enough to keep your mind occupied, but as evening approaches, everything suddenly feels a little heavier and the dread begins to creep in. Why, though? You've had an alright day! You might feel anxious, tearful, overwhelmed, or wonder why you're not looking forward to the evening.

There's actually a reason for it.

Your hormones are changing dramatically, you're recovering from birth, you're probably running on very little sleep, and nights with a newborn can feel long and unpredictable. Will they sleep? Will you? How long will they sleep for? What if they sleep but you can't? It's no wonder your brain starts sounding the alarm as bedtime approaches.

I always reassure parents that these feelings are incredibly common in the first 6–8 weeks after having a baby. It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong, and it certainly doesn't mean you're a bad parent.

The important thing to know is this: it gets better!!!!!

As your hormones settle, you start getting to know your baby, your confidence grows, and your family finds its own rhythm. Those evenings that once felt overwhelming become just another part of the day. The sun still goes down, but it's a lot less scary!

In the meantime, be kind to yourself. Accept help when it's offered. Keep expectations low. Tell someone how you're feeling. And remember that you don't have to enjoy every moment to be a wonderful parent.

If these feelings become intense, don't improve after the first few weeks, or you're finding they're affecting your ability to cope, please speak to your midwife, health visitor or GP. Support is available, and you deserve it.